Everyone here has probably been through a breakup or two. You may be going through one right now. The big problem with breakups is that people often do things that, under normal circumstances, they would never think of doing. This problem intensifies with how big the breakup actually is. This is a cautionary guide about what NOT to do when you get dumped.
Getting dumped isn’t fun for anyone. However, no matter how shafted you are feeling, there are some rules outlined in the Magic of Making Up that you need to stick to if you want to maintain your dignity and stay out of jail. First of all, unless light shone from every pore of their body, you probably don’t need them, so don’t waste your time trying to get them back. If you absolutely have to get them back, then go for it, but it’s probably not worth your time, especially if they dumped you. Your best bet is to leave well enough alone and move on.
Next, if you are entertaining any thoughts of payback, then discard them. No matter how great your plan to key her car or drop his iphone in a toilet seems to be right now, it is NOT a good plan. Revenge will get you two things; guilt and restraining orders. Actually, you could really get yourself into trouble trying to carry out some half-backed plan for revenge.
Now that you’ve been dumped, you are officially on the rebound. That really hot guy at work with the cute dimples is starting to really appeal to you. Maybe that blonde receptionist down the hall is practically beckoning you. I have one word for you: NO. Jumping right back into the saddle is not only going break your heart more but may also wind up breaking the hearts of others. Besides, what if those people really would be a good match for you? Turning them into your rebound boy/girlfriend will probably forever ruin any chance you may have of a serious relationship. Just don’t go there. Lay low on the dating scene for a little while. Re-acquaint yourself with you. Spend some time just doing what you do without any outside attachments.
Finally, do not let yourself get depressed about being dumped. No matter what form it may come in for you, be it drowning your sorrows in a bottle of beer or a tub of ice cream; you can’t let one bad situation control your life. So they dumped you. It sucks. No, you don’t have to get over it in 5 seconds, but you do have to get over it. They were not the only people on earth that you could ever love and they were not the only ones on earth that could ever love you. All you have to do is get back up on your feet and keep moving. It’s probably not the only time you’ll ever be dumped and it’s definitely not the worst thing that can happen to you. So let it go and whatever you do, don’t over-react.
How do you react when you get dumped?
Okay ladies, you thought you could do without him, right? You wanted to prove you didn’t need a man and now you can’t stop thinking about him. Well, before you grab that bottle of tequila and start deleting pictures off your laptop while balling your eyes out, try using some of these tips on how to get your ex-boyfriend back.
Men are simple. They don’t need you to send them flowers or letters and they definitely don’t want you calling them all day telling them how sorry you are. As a matter of fact, the Magic of Making Up says these will probably hurt your case way more than they will help. Guys don’t like clingy girls. Heck, no one likes clingy people. So, the first rule is: don’t be clingy.
Now, you need to accept that since you broke up with him, he has probably found himself a filler girl to pass the time with. You absolutely should NOT get angry with him about this. Rebound boy/girlfriends are just part of the game. You also can’t give up just because there’s competition. There has always been competition; you were just always in the lead position before. Now you need to win your spot back.
Start by fixing yourself up. Yes, it sounds cheesy and chauvinistic and all that, but let’s face facts. Men are visual creatures and you need to show him what he’s missing out on. Pull out the chest shirts and the heels and leave your hair down. Try not to over do it with the make-up.
Call him up and see if he’ll meet you somewhere. Tell him that you need to talk. If he says no, then you may need to surprise him at work with a “perfectly acceptable excuse.” Nevertheless, find a way to meet. Tell him that you’ve missed seeing him and having him around. This is big. Guys like to feel needed and useful. Let him know that things haven’t been the same without him. Try not to get too emotional or you might scare him off. If he brings up the fact that you dumped him, apologize. Tell him that you made a mistake and that you weren’t thinking.
He may tell you that he needs to think about it. He may just say no. Either way, gives him a little space. Don’t give him the impression that you’re desperate. A few days after the encounter, ask him to lunch. Make sure you’re still looking good. Just chat with him lightly. Make him laugh. Talk about good times you both had as if they just happened yesterday. Once it’s over, tell him you had fun and leave. Don’t bring up the dating issue unless he does.
Call him that night and tell him that you want to get back together with him. Let him know how much you care about him and remind him of how much fun you had that afternoon. The two previous encounters will be fresh in his mind and he’ll probably be thinking about how good you were looking. He will probably be much more open to the possibility now than he ever was before. I wish you luck, ladies.