I’ve got a news flash for you…
Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?
You see, people often get married with this strange idea that their “chemistry” or undying love for one other will keep them together forever.
However, with about 50% of failed marriages that end in divorce these days, it’s obvious that this cannot be true. Therefore, it pays to know a few little secrets about having a successful marriage BEFORE getting married.
So without further ado, here are five marriage tips that help to keep couples together long after Before Getting Married
1. Never Stop Dating
Over the years, people often drift apart because of boredom. And relationships and marriages become stale because couples fail to do new and special things together.
This is why going on new and refreshing dates is so important to the health of your relationship. In fact, there is something about “dating” that creates a sense of magic in a relationship and can even bring relationships out of a rut rather quickly.
It’s also important that while you’re dating your partner, you put in the effort to ensure that your appearance is stellar. You must also ensure that you have more uninterrupted time to communicate on a deeper level. This will naturally draw you both much closer together.
Are you stuck for fun and romantic date ideas? You can try spending the day at the aquarium, zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach, or park for starters.
2. Delay Gratification
It’s a well-documented statistic that couples that have dated for a year or longer before getting married have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those who married after a short dating period.
A year or more of dating gives enough time for many emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered. You may adore someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter.
Asking someone for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn’t really romantic. In reality, it’s more like gambling.
3. Express Your Love Frequently
Learning how to express your love is essential to the happy marriage. Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each other because they ‘assume’ their partner already knows what they’re thinking and feeling.
In reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner and doing things to show your appreciation. Simple things like complimenting them on their cooking or reaffirming that they’re the greatest person in the world will do wonders for their self-esteem.
You can even go as far as to tell them how proud you are of them in a particular area. And if you want to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When they’re feeling loved, it’ll be much easier for them to love in return.
Think about it for a moment…
Are you a super supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise them constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or silence?
4. Seek to Understand Your Partner
Couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, “I just don’t understand him or her.”
So let me ask you this: How knowledgeable are you about your mate’s profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in rugby? If you are a man, do you fully understand what women experience during PMS or menopause?
The better you know your partner the easier it will be for you to love them unconditionally simply because you’ll understand their strengths, weaknesses, quirks, and hang-ups. You’re less likely to take things personally when you understand the underlying reason for their behavior.
I’m not saying that you need to know every single last detail about them, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest your partner in life and you’ll grow much closer as a result.
5. Ask the Right Questions
Does your partner want kids? Do you both want careers? Do they have a history of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?.This keep in mind Before Getting Married
In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is because couples fail to ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get married.
I guess people think they’ll be able to change their spouses after marriage and everything will be better. This is wrong, just plain old wrong!
If you fail to sit down and discuss finances, religion, sex, housing, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.
In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or “I love you’s” will help you stay together.
Make it your utmost priority to understand each other ‘inside and out’ BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle. It’s a good investment in your future happiness if you want to have a successful marriage.Keep this in mind before getting married
Sometimes you’re just strapped for cash, and that’s that. Or at other times you may want to be a little more creative with your romantic lover, and that’s fine as well. Either way, sometimes you just don’t want to spend oodles of cash just to be romantic.
In fact, finding creative, fun, and inexpensive ways for displaying your romantic side and love for your partner can have a great effect on the health of your relationship. It’s easy to spend money….really easy. But coming up with creative ways of saying “I love you!” and “I care for you!” can be a bit more tricky, and thus in the long are seen as much more thoughtful.
Luckily, there are many ways you can be romantic very cheaply. There are a lot of cheap romantic ideas for couples out there on the web, but what we’ve done is to provide you with a list of some of the best of those cheap romantic ideas.
50 Cheap Romantic Ideas For Couples
So, here are some cheap romantic ideas that don’t require you to break the bank in order to have a little fun and romance:
- Write a poem.
- Cook a romantic dinner.
- Give a full-body massage.
- Pack a sunset picnic.
- Pick wildflowers on the way home.
- Burn a CD with love songs.
- Give dark chocolates.
- Read poetry together.
- Prepare strawberries with fondue chocolate.
- Snuggle together on a rainy day.
- Leave little love notes everywhere.
- Send a love email every day.
- Take a moonlit walk on the beach.
- Snuggle together while watching romantic movies like Casablanca.
- Get good wine, watch shooting stars.
- Take a bath together (use bubbles!).
- Bring home good coffee or a decadent sweet.
- Take a walk down memory lane — visit some of the special places from your early days of dating.
- Make warm chocolate cake for dessert.
- Make a scrapbook with photos, mementos, and little notes from you lives together.
- Kiss in the rain.
- Ride a ferris wheel.
- Sneak away from a party and make out.
- Bring home great take-out, and light some candles.
- Fix something or fix up the house just to make your partner happy.
- Slow dance to romantic music.
- Take a nap together.
- Kiss slowly, touching his or her back and neck and nape — slowly.
- Make a list of everything you love about him or her.
- Write a love letter.
- Clip or email things that make you think of him or her, every day.
- Go to a movie, ignore the movie, and make out like teen-agers.
- Groom yourself, and try to look good for your partner.
- Take some quiet time and talk about your day.
- Write little notes, one for each way he or she drives you crazy.
- Feed each other grapes.
- Recreate your partner’s favorite romantic movie scene.
- Pretend you’re going on a first date — show up at the door with flowers, all dressed up, with your car washed and cleaned, looking spiffy. Recreate the first time.
- Create a little box with a bunch of your partner’s favorite things inside.
- Paint each other with flavored body paint. Be creative!
- Try some sexy role-playing. Get dressed up, be daring, have fun.
- Give a little token to your partner to wear, and say it’s to remind him or her all day that you love them.
- Sing a favorite song to him or her. Only do this if you can sing fairly well.
- Have dinner on the roof, with some candles. This doesn’t work if your roof slopes sharply.
- Hold hands, and walk somewhere with lots of pretty lights.
- Say I love you. In a different way, every day.
- Blindfold your partner. Use a feather. Slowly.
- Declare your love, very publicly.
- Fruit or berries and freshly made whipped cream.
- Play Sade. Do what comes naturally. Slowly.